Sunday, September 11, 2011

The Best Tombstone

A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.
-- Charles Spurgeon 

I once attended a funeral for a man who had great accomplishments in life.  He was an inventor, a business man, in fact, a millionaire.  What was sad was the fact that so few people were there.  His family sat there dry eyed looking like they couldn't wait for it to be over so they could go on with their lives.  The man had been so busy with his "accomplishments" that he had neglected his wife and kids.  They wouldn't miss him because they never knew what it was to be with him.

I compare that to the death of a treasured friend, Judy Holte.  You won't find her name in Who's Who, but you'll find it written across the hearts of everyone who knew her.  For Judy everyone else came first.  She was the first one there when there was a need, big or small,  She would laugh with you or cry with you with the same intensity.  I don't think I ever heard her say a mean thing about a person.  In fact, she was always making excuses for the bad behavior of others.  She had a heart of gold---and when she was taken from us suddenly, the church was filled to the brim, and it seated 1300!

The flowers have long since withered, but her sweet fragrance still permeates my life.  It is my prayer that I am daily writing my name on the hearts of everyone God allows to enter my life---just like Judy.


  1. Patty, this is so true. I pray that I leave this world with a legacy of love, honor and humor. I know that you are making such a positive impact on the lives of many. You are succeeding greatly in that endeavor.

  2. hello patty, for some reason i googled my moms name and came across this. thank you for the wonderful kind words about her. i feel so blessed to have had her as a mother and role model. hope cbs is going well, think of you all often.
    love, Kim